What do you do when a person is so stuck in their marriage, they cannot decide what to do, so they do nothing week after week, month after month? They don’t contribute, there’s no intimacy, no connection and yet they don’t want to leave either.

When a person becomes unhappy in a marriage for some the direction they must take is clear to them. For many people, that decision is fraught with consequences that are good and bad whichever way they turn so they become paralysed.

This post is about understanding if presented with this problem what’s needed to help that couple out of it.

In simple terms, the solution to this problem is helping them see their problem in solvable terms.

Their problem is simple, they have been looking at their problem in a way that keeps them stuck, but they are unaware this is what they are doing.

A significant number of my clients come to see me with this very problem they are stuck, paralysed not able to commit to being in the...